No such thing as ‘normal’: How to encourage children to value diversity
(Edited by Anna Taylor)
The other day I found myself watching the finals of Britain’s Got Talent 2018. It reminded me how much more diverse this year’s show was than ever before.
In a wonderful moment, we saw on stage not one but two disabled comedians (how rare that is – a comedian winning BGT!). They were the hilarious Robert White (who has Asperger’s) and the brilliant Lee Ridley, AKA Lost Voice Guy (who has cerebral palsy).
Importantly, they were there on equal terms with all of the other contestants. Both oozed funny, loveable personalities and showed that they were not defined by their disability.
Why representation is important
Representation such as this can help remove the stigma of disability.
You’re not watching a guy with Asperger’s or a bloke with cerebral palsy; you’re listening to their tongue-in-cheek jokes and laughing with them.
Some might say that disabilities should be ignored in order to really be equal. But sometimes ignoring differences just means they become the unknown, which can lead to fear and prejudice.
Positive representation helps children learn that it’s okay to be different, whether it’s because of a person’s disability, or their gender, race, religion, and so on. This is important for discouraging harmful stereotypes and helping children learn to value themselves as unique individuals.
Talking about diversity with young children
Younger children are normally very accepting of people’s differences and more often than not, they are simply curious. So do your best to answer your child’s questions and make it relatable to them.
For example, there might be a child in their class with Autism who doesn’t like loud noises. You could talk about things your child doesn’t like or is scared of.
Or if a Jewish child in their class wears a kippah, talk to your child about that child’s religion. You might explain that people follow different religions and show them pictures of the different Gods people believe in. Talk about any religious places you have visited too, such as churches and cathedrals.
If your child has any concerns, don’t be afraid to discuss those too – it is all part of their learning.
Watching TV programmes together is a good starting point for discussing diversity with young children. CBeebies is very good for this, or take a look at this list of programmes with diverse characters from Common Sense Media.
Play ideas to teach young children about diversity
You can help your child experience diversity through play – a toy box with a variety of characters your child can play with is a good starting point.
The ABC Bus from Fiesta Crafts is great for this because it has a collection of 26 people to play with, including different races and interests, and some with disabilities. This uniqueness really inspires children to think about the character’s personality and story when they play.
The Multicultural Rag Dolls from One Dear World have a lot of scope for discussion about cultural diversity. The characters are from all over the world – Ghana, Hong Kong, Oslo and Mumbai – and can be used to introduce children to other cultures, or to help children learn about their own identity by having a doll they can relate to.
Unfortunately, there aren’t many toys just yet that represent the diverse society we live in , although campaigns such as Toy Like Me are fighting for more representative toys.
You can also make crafts and play games together to learn about people and communities. For example, you could try this coloured paper activity or this lamp craft, both of which can get children thinking about the beauty of diversity by demonstrating that we all come in different shapes, colours and sizes.
Or how about giving your child hands-on experience of other cultures – you could celebrate Chinese New Year or cook up some recipes from across the world.
How to model respect for diversity
Children learn by copying, so their attitudes towards diversity will be influenced by everyone around them.
We, as parents, are their biggest role models. So the first step towards encouraging your child to respect diversity is to consider how you treat others who are different.
Do you make eye contact and smile when you see them in the street? How do you talk to them? How do you talk about them when you’re at home?
A good example is not shying away from inviting certain children over for a playdate or Birthday party. It will demonstrate to your child that it’s important to include everyone and will mean so much to the child themselves. Their mum or dad will welcome any questions you have in order to set your mind at rest.
Getting older children to ‘choose kind’
I don’t think there’s many of us that had a smooth ride in secondary school.
It’s an age where everyone feels pressured to fit in more than ever – so children can become more self-conscious about anything that makes them stand out, and may bully others for their differences in order to be accepted by their own peer group.
Social media and text messaging means that bullying even follows children home from school now.
Surrounded by so much social pressure, how can we continue to promote respect for diversity as children get older?
Remember that even at this age you are an important role model for your child. So keep being the person you want your child to become and model positive attitudes wherever you can.
Also at this age, children are cognitively able to think in a more abstract way and develop an understanding of hypothetical situations. So films, TV shows and books that challenge stereotypes and offer positive, accurate representation of differences are a great way to get your child thinking about diversity.
To Kill a Mockingbird is a classic book/film for teaching children about racial prejudice, or there’s the more recent Wonder which teaches viewers to appreciate people for who they are and not what they look like.
YouTube can also give children great insight into the lives of a more diverse group of people, such as the Ted Talks ‘I’m not your inspiration, thank you very much’ or ‘I am not your Asian stereotype’.
I normally talk about teaching children important skills. But I think when it comes to respecting diversity, it’s something that actually comes naturally to children.
Encouraging children to value diversity seems to be more about what we need to avoid teaching them – the prejudice, the stereotypes and the misconceptions – than what we need to teach them.
In some cases, they could even teach us a lesson or two.
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This post was written by Claire Gillies